If I had my life to live over, I would perhaps have more actual troubles but I’d have fewer imaginary ones. – Don Herold
Life almost seems to present the picture that we are engineered for worry, fear and disbelief in self (a paradox contrary-to-truth). Entertaining this thought for long, people become defenseless against worry, which in turn gives way to fear and ultimately failure.
Have you ever taken the time to take stock of how many of your fears really come true? Studies estimate that 80% to 90% of the things we worry about NEVERcome to pass. Wouldn’t it be amazing to finally find out how many of your worries actually come to pass? I think I found a solution for you, especially if you are chronic worrier. It is something I have decided to call the WORRY BANK.
How to use it?
- Make or buy a box or doll where you can create a hole to deposit a written worry. Similar to a piggy bank.
- Every time a worry crosses your mind, write it down and put it in the box, stating what it is that is worrying you, why it is worrying you and when you think it may actually happen.
- Open your worry bank every month or two to check how many of your worries actually came true.
I would however like to acknowledge the fact that some things (10-20%) may actually come to pass, for these, take yourself through this 2 step process:
- Can you do something about it? Yes, then go ahead and do what you can to mitigate.
- If the answer is No, then clearly that’s not within your powers, so no matter how hard or long you worry about it, it won’t help.
If it continues, remind yourself that Today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. And am sure it is not as pathetic as you thought it would be, right?
Let me know what you think of this Bank/strategy.